“Everything is connected and where you are in this moment is precisely where you’re supposed to be. You may not know why, and you may hate your current situation, but in time, the reason will become clear.” – Jason Wachob
Transition is weird.
I can’t remember a time where I shifted from one phase of life to the next without a collection of rage, confusion, and tears.
My head quickly becomes clouded and I wonder how I ended up in this place. Isn’t change supposed to feel good? What gives?
I find myself questioning every decision I’ve made up to this point – how would things be different if x, y, or z never happened? Would I be better off?
To be fair, I can’t answer that. I don’t have a clue what’s best for me and truth is, none of us do. We may have plans lined up in our minds, but when it comes to execution, the Universe will only carry out those plans if they’re truly for our highest good.
The highest good is a concept out of our reach. It’s something our brain simply can’t grasp.
Without knowledge of how the future will play out, the only thing we can be sure of is what is best for us in each moment.
It’s easy to get caught up in the anxiety of change and questioning our choices, however, if your decisions are intuition-based, you have nothing to be worried about.
There’s a huge difference between making a choice out of love or fear.
When you’re faced with a choice and you approach the situation with ease, any decision you come to is for your highest good. Your thoughts were under control, you didn’t rush the process, and overall, you felt calm.
Fear-based choices are where most of human suffering occurs.
When we fall into fear, we tend to make decisions as quickly as possible – no matter the outcome. The goal is to push our unwanted emotions out of sight.
The problem is, most of these choices ultimately leave us hurt.
For example, when I experience sadness, my first instinct is to zone out with Netflix and eat my feelings. I quickly jump to this solution without weighing out my options.
I know exercising, writing, or reading ultimately provides more comfort, but these require me to be with myself. When a depressive spiral occurs, that may as well be my own version of hell. I’m the last person I want to spend time with when shit hits the fan.
So, I turn on my laptop and shut off the emotions. I spend hours engulfed in Michael Scott’s antics or fall into a hole of pointless YouTube videos. There’s no going back.
However, if I made the decision to sit with my sadness, let it pass, and then decide what to do next, I’d live a hell of a more productive life.
Impulse decisions may be gratifying or exciting in the moment, but you’re always going to be left with the aftermath. The problems that come up for you will continue to return until you face them directly.
The show will end, you’ll reach the bottom of the chip bag, and the sun will go down. You’re left with a blank screen, salty fingers, and a dark room. You’re alone again and right on cue, the emotions are back.
Transition can be tough, but if you think about it, life is ever-changing. The people we are today could become nothing but a memory tomorrow and our circumstances will never remain stagnant for long.
For a period, we experience an ebb-and-flow. Our desires unfold right before our eyes and we’re nothing but thankful. It almost feels too good to be true.
Just like that, our world may shatter. The pieces we built up fall apart and it seems impossible to pull ourselves back together.
But, we do.
We look around at the destruction, breathe, and go inward.
We pick up our pieces, gather a pile, and decide what we want to do differently this time.
In the end, we create a masterpiece that both astonishes and terrifies us.
We’re astonished over this newfound world and truth is, it may be our best plan yet. However, we know the story – we know how this ends.
The pieces will come crumbling soon enough and we’ll be back to square one.
Lucky for us, square one is where our intuition comes alive. We examine our current circumstance, figure out where we went wrong, and out of nowhere, we find ourselves with a solution we can’t believe we never thought of before.
Life is a beautiful thing.
We are beings that live on transition and for that, we should feel lucky. We aren’t confined to one single story. We have the ability to change our habits, beliefs, values, or whatever else in any moment.
We never have to become slaves to the human experience when we’re holding the controller.
Embrace the unknown. Escape your comfort zone on a daily basis. Dive in to your fuck-ups and feel excited that you get to re-invent yourself all over again.
It’s all in our hands.